Perfection is a state which all beings in duality long . As a sleeping (sleeping in ignorance) individuals we all the time experience a state of non-fulfillment. Of some thing missing in life. A state which is consciously and unconsciously seeking perfection.
On further inquire into the nature of perfection , the what, why and where. We realize that the constant seeking in us is due to a state of non-contentment with the present, which is so say “what is”. What is or to see things as they are. There is some thing in us, which persistently tells us that there is a state of total satisfaction, of total fulfillment, of total happiness and completeness. A place or state which satisfies all our needs, from the physical to the least gross and subtle.
Well, do we have any subtle needs? Many would say that human beings requires only food, drink, sleep, clothing, shelter and sex! Aren’t these needs of our physical body met everyday? For majority, these needs have become basis of life, or in other words the type and quantity of these needs defines whether one is leading a quality life or not.
Does quality of life also mean that we are happy, satisfied and content? We should be so, if we agree that human being have only physical needs.
There are some who would suggest that human being is not just an animal but a social being. O.K. I agree to it. What does a social being require or need? Can the social being be happy and contented?
Well, yes if human beings get love, care ,attention, recognition and sense of identity, they would be happy. What love and sense of longing are we talking about?
The human to human love, the love of parents towards the child, the love between a man and women, the recognition of ones role in the society, the sense of national, regional and ethnic identify. All these help in making a human feel needed and hence satisfied.
What if a human being has all this and yet is not satisfied? There are human needs like hunger and sleep which are tangible. If you did not have good or healthy food last night you would know it while sleeping or early next morning. Subsequently you can choose the next time. But how do you know that the love and attention you are receiving from your lover or partner is right or sufficient for you? Off course when you have a lover and you still dream or imagine to be with some one else, then you know that your needs either on physical, emotional or intellectual level are not being meet by your partner. So, do we enquire into what love needs we as an individual have, understand it fully and then look for an another partner or do we just go on further as usual. Leaving a person who we thought some time back was our soul mate and could satisfy all our needs. Majority of human beings just follow a pattern of constant search, with out understanding who they are, what makes them the most happy and what exactly they are looking for in a partner.
Even human beings who know what they are seeking do not really understand themselves well. The problem is that, “we think we know”. The thinking part is the most dangerous element in human nature, for thinking implicitly includes thoughts and thoughts implicitly include creation, continuation and demolition of images.
That fact that you are not what you think you are is as real as a cat thinking that it’s a tiger. Surely, cats and tigers are related biologically yet they are totally different entities. If cats start to think that they are tiger and interact with their immediately environment accordingly, then surely they would join the human race in search for happiness and contentment.
Mental Images are a result of past memory, experiences and a need for continuation of similar or related patterns. Human beings are irresistibly seeking identity and security of that identity. First thing when we are born , we are told that we are boy or a girl and that sticking to these biological identities is important for existence. That a boy should behave, dress and cultivate qualities which help him become a man, women would love. The boy all his life tries to be a man, a women would like, but is never happy himself.
Can we do justice to an image? Can we be some thing what we are not? Does your partner love you for the image and love you per say. How long can we continue being in an image? Are we really happy being the imagine your partner or parents and society want? Is this bondage love? Is love binding or love is liberating ?
Am I suggesting that we not think at all? After all this world operates through thought and mind ´processes. But rather what I am suggested that we be aware of these multiple images in ourselves and see level of identification with each mental image that we create or stick to closely.
These are certain leads which each human being should inquiry deeply. Surely, lesser thoughts and a still mind can help greatly in this inward search for the real human being or the real self which perhaps you always wanted to know but never knew.
The following mantra or maha vakya will help you being constantly aware of the mind and its jugglery of images
"Any thing of mind and thoughts is binding, and any thing of your real self is liberating"
Om shivaya, om shivaya, om shivaya!
Om guru
Jai guru Om
Confessions of the enlightenment
Practical confessions on the discover of the various aspects of the ego on the journey to the true source of our being or our true self.
Monday, 18 May 2009
Thursday, 14 May 2009
Brazil India Travel wonder: A tale of an Indian in South Brazil
Brazil and South America are a great international travel destination. The vastness of Americas, scarce population, massively sized grace land; stocky horses, unique fruits, sandy beaches, huge water bodies, lonely mountains and awesome Mother Nature create a great exploration map.
South America covers an area of roughly 6.9 million square miles or 17 million square kilometers and is the fourth largest continent. From a population standpoint, South America is home to about 400 million people, which makes it the fifth most populated continent. Brazil is the largest Latin American country which covers nearly half of the continent of South America, stretching from the Guiana Highlands in the north, which borders with Venezuela, Guyana, Suriname, and French Guiana, to the plains of Uruguay, Paraguay, and Argentina in the south. In the west Brazil spreads to the equatorial rain forest, bordering with Bolivia, Peru, and Colombia and in the east it extends into the Atlantic Ocean towards Africa. And if you happen to be living in the southern most beaches of the state of Rio Grande do Sul (Big River of the South), the cold waves and wind from Antarctica can be easily felt through the year. South America and Brazil has a blend of European, Indigenous people of America or Native Indians and African cultures.
The first impression of Brazil for someone coming from India, is that it’s a youthful land and country with palpable freshness in the air. The living history of Brazil can be dated back to couple of hundred years, with the entry of exploratory missions from Europe, inflow of African slaves and later more immigrants from Europe during periods of crises. The living history of the indigenous people of America is not yet well recognized and adopted into the mainstream culture of Brazil. Twelve independent countries having two European languages i.e. Spanish and Portuguese as their official language is perhaps an indicator. In fact, if Brazil was not colonized by Portuguese, Spanish would have been the only official language for the entire continent. Certainly, having one official language is a great help to international travelers. But, where have all the regional and ethnic tribe languages gone?
Language hurdle is the second observation a traveler from India can easily make.
As Brazil was a colony of Portugal from 1500 to 1822, Portuguese is the official language. Portuguese, as an official language is spoken in nine countries mainly in South and East Africa apart from Brazil in South America and Portugal in Europe. However, the hospitable, warm and friendly nature of Brazilians, makes moving around easier for a non-Portuguese and non-Spanish speaking traveler.
The oldest buildings and structures in Brazil only date back to a hundred or couple years back. For an Indian who has been born and living in heritage structures that date back to centuries, it was quite a thing to go visit heritage sites and buildings in Brazil. How could I share with my fellow Brazilians that in India when we say heritage or old monuments we are thinking in terms of thousands of years? There is greater homogeneity (language, religion, value system) in Brazil and South America in comparison with India and Asia. Various regional cultural flavors and wonderful festival expression are part of Brazil, yet there seem to be common pulse running through all. Further integration of native culture in to mainstream would certainly make the Brazilian culture more rich and recognizable in the memories of foreign tourist and travelers.
Having no history or very less of it is a great proposition for people and communities who want to achieve new heights of perfection based on knowledge and learning from other continents and civilization. What a relief I felt when I first realized the ethos of this land. As an Indian we are always subject to heavy conditioning, which our centuries old culture and tradition passes on. However, it took me some while to understand that human mind can not live without conditioning and that difference between Asia/India and Brazil is the type, level and nature of conditioning. That, a very different type of conditioning prevailed here too!
The regions in south Brazil are inhabited by European settles and seem very white. These settles primary came from Germany, Italy, Spain and Portugal. Majority of these settles till today hold quite closely the association with European roots. In
southern Brazil, many small towns and villages have only settlers from Germany, with distinct German touch in local infrastructure, taste, cuisine, bakery and not to forget the German national flag, which flies high along with Brazilian national flag and the state flag. Another prominent feature of Brazil for an Indian point of view is the amount visibility of the Brazilian national flag gets. The Brazilian flag and its colors can be seen everywhere, from private homes, fashion clothing to even on the dress material of saints and Mother Mary. The flag and its colors seem omnipresent.
Can an Indian imagine to travel without trains in a country 3 times bigger than India? That was the other surprise stored for me. Traveling through entire Brazil on a slow moving and comfortable train would have been the ultimate experience of the Brazilian ethos for an Indian from far far away land.. In fact to foreign nationals who really want to explore India (have time on their hand), I always advise them to travel by train in India. India without trains would perhaps be Brazil without Carnival!
What cricket, bollywood and chai (tea) is to India. Football, television serials and coffee is to entire Brazil. If you love either of the three or all the three then there can’t be a more tempting destination then Brazil.
Interestingly unlike other Asian countries the Brazilian capital city, Brasilia is not located on the tourist-traveler, commerce and cultural map. Majority of Brazilians never visit the Capital city and correctly do not have an incentive to visit it too. From the southern states of Brazil it seems that Brasilia, is a far away and disconnected land, where the central government happens to manage the entire nation. The vastness of the country can be imagined by the fact that the flying time from the southern city of Porto Alegre to Manaus, the city based in Amazon Rainforest would take at least six to seven hours.
Rio de Janeiro, Brasilia, Florianopolis and Porto Alegre are some of the cities which should be visited in Brazil. Rio de Janeiro stands out as the most attractive urban destination I have come across in recent past. Along with astonishingly shaped mountain peeks and beautifully shaped beaches, Rio de Janeiro has a great spiritual vibe to it, symbolized by the giant statue of Christ, known as Christ the Redeemer ('Cristo Redentor') on top of Corcovado mountain., which is one of the New Seven Wonders of the World. In terms of beauty beaches in south Brazil, Florianopolis stands out as the next best city I have visited
Uruguay and Argentina the neighboring countries of south Brazil can be easily accessed from Porto Alegre city. Argentina and Uruguay’s border is a pleasant drive of
six hours from Porto Alegre city.
Good time e to visit Brazil is in summers which starts from November to March of each year. During summers entire Brazil is on the beach. And if your city is not on the coast then either families go on vacation to nearby costal area or camp at the nearby lagoon, river or waterfalls. Where ever you are during summers, one has to be scantly dressed and by a water source.
The spirit of Brazil is reflected during the carnival and festival time in February each year. The preparations for the carnival start almost 12 months in advance, and the entire nation is shut for a week. The colors, costumes, human bodies, dances, decorations and music add a great twist to the carnival.
I haven’t yet been to many other exotic and beautiful parts of north and western Brazil, for example breath-taking the Amazonia Rainforest. But what little I have seen and experienced in Brazil in the last six months, based on that, I can very confidently say that Brazil is a thrilling travel destination for tourist and travelers from Asia and in particular from India.
Most Indian’s who can afford international travel visit Europe and North America. For such travelers and the once who are looking at unique travel experience, Brazil and South America are a great bet. What perhaps is more interesting from a Brazilian and Indian point of view is that according to the recent annual study published by World Travel and Tourism Council (WTTC) Brazil and India are the most price competitive tourism destinations in the world.
However, there are some hurdles. An economy class ticket to Brazil cost nearly 2000 USD. Which is almost double the cost of air tickets to either Europe, North America and Australia. In fact tickets from India to Brazil which route through North America are cheaper than an other connections, either of Europe, Africa or Middle east. From Brazil a good price air ticket to India through Europe, Africa or Middle East connections, cost the same as flying from Brazil to East coast of United States ( Los Angles), stopping over for a holiday and then continuing the onward journey to India.
Lately, the daily broadcast of a soap opera titled “Caminho das Indias” (meaning The way of India) on prime time television, largely based on Indian culture and characters has created lot of interest among Brazilians. There seems to be great interest to visit the ancient land of pluralist, yoga, caste system and Taj Mahal. Courtesy to the television serial, caste system and life of dailts in India has caught the imagination and attention of many Brazilians. As an Indian national visiting Brazil, I try my best to clarify the doubts about the rigid caste system with a nonbiased perspective. After all I am a big fan of Indian ethos i.e. tolerance, respect for diversity and an incessant yearning for self knowledge/realization rather than the decayed practice of caste system as currently practiced in India.
The youthfulness of Brazil and ancientness of India can complement each other quite nicely in creating an unique route of exchange and mutual development. However, accessibility, cost of travel and language concerns need to be addressed in order to build a strong travel relationship between these two great continents and cultures. Are the international airlines, Tourism Regulatory Bodies and Federal Governments listening?
Sunday, 3 May 2009
All works through me: A birthday wish of innocence

How many times have you asked a child to make a birthday wish? How many times have you heard the child’s wish for some thing totally bizarre? How many times have you seen a child cry relentlessly to fulfill a birthday wish?
Children are the most beautiful lot of mankind on earth. No matter what you as an adult might be gonging through in life either at physical, emotional and financial level. A mere look at the child face will relieve you of all the pain and agony. There is some thing special in them and in their age. They seem to be experiencing so much joy , that it instantaneously trickle down on adults who come in contact with them. In fact spending time with children is one of the best and oldest therapies for relaxation know and unknown to mankind. Know to the wise, who have kept their hearts and mind open to varies ways of relating with the Self, and unknown to ignorant men, who identify with the image of a ‘man’, that numerous times each day they lose this great opportunity to relate to their own Self and be happy,
The ignorant men will require a well informed research ( meaning a research in which lots of time and money had been spend) from a third party ( which might be based in far away land) to think of this proposition, let alone to experience it. The foundation of all research starts from the individual. The ability to inquire, observe, analyze and to be open to conclusions, which might contradict his or her earlier ideas. In other words, the foundation of all scientific research of mankind on matter is to see things as they are.
In the last couple of months, we have attended numerous birthday parties. Some were of children who were new arrivals , while others were of youngsters and some of people who have occupied this planet for a long time. It’s quite evident how passionately birthdays are celebrated in this part of the world (South America and western hemi sphere). Small family gatherings to a big pomp and show, in which the essential feature is the amount of money spend and the number of celebrated guest attended. In this age of matter (or Kali Yuga), birthday celebration have become alike to making fashion or social statements. Parents, family and friends do all things possible on this particular day to celebrate the birthday of the individual. Overlooking that there was a life before and there will be a life after this day for the individual. A life that is very lonely, insecure and unsatisfied.
I recently asked one of the relatives of a birthday girl. “Why all this extra effort today? She quite abruptly (to conceal deeper investigation) said, “Why don’t you know, today is Lara’s birthday”, “We want her to feel special today!”. Lara is always special, why tell her only one day of the year, I said. “Yes but today she is extra special, have you bought a gift for her yet? she said with a smile, and left the conversation almost unexpectedly.
Sensing her displeasure over my seemingly naïve query, I decide to take a walk by the sea. It was dusk and the Sun was setting into the sea and giving the entire ocean an orange glow. I was now enjoying the breeze, waves and the vastness of the ocean. Suddenly, a very calm feeling permeated my entire being, it was as if I had become the ocean. I was vastness and happiness itself. There was nothing I wanted or craved for. I was the only thing that existed and all things that seemed to exist apart from me in the past now seemed to be actually part of me.
As water of the ocean, it was I who manifested in the form of waves. And it was I with which the waves finally merged. I had become weightless, and it seemed that a slight touch or so, and I would float like feather in free space. I could see all things and beings inside and outside me. In fact on various occasions birds and people flew and walked straight through me. And yet I was aware of everything and detail on that beach. Some time later, I regained my physical weight and realized that I was far away on the seashore. What was that? I asked with exhilaration and honestly while sitting in silence that night.
A voice from everywhere and nowhere said “ its you, love! Your real self ”. If its me then why cant I feel the same now? I enquired after a while. The voice said, “ you are identified with the manifested wave of the cosmic source”. You are the wave of manifestation and also the source from which entire cosmos has emerged”. I was now still and centered on the inner invisible heart.
As hours flew by, I addressed another question to this omnipresent Guru who seemed to fill my being with deep bliss. If I am the source of entire cosmos, then why do I feel miserable? The voice said “ Can the unlimited be happy being the limited? You are identified with the manifested to the extent that you have forgotten your real nature. Awake and arise from your sleep of body consciousness. Once awakened in the unlimited, even the manifested state will be a blissful song ”.
It was morning time now, as I got up from the bed. Every thing was special, unique, beautiful and one of its kind. Every person was different, gorgeous and charming to me, all colors, designs and dresses got my full appreciation. I was understanding, love and compassion itself, as I saw myself in every thing and everyone. How could I judge any one when it was all nothing but me?
On awakening, I saw that the feeling of being the unlimited is inherent to all beings. As a child, it’s the inquisitiveness and sense of finding satisfying answers to all the questions. The innocent birthday wish of the child is reflective of this search for perfection. During my childhood days, the feeling of being special and unlimited was so palpable that , I would almost insist to my parents that my birthday be celebrated all days of the year. While other laughed to loud rapture at this innocent but ambitious wish, my mother who unconsciously understood the feeling of the unlimited, promised to make some thing special to eat every day of the year as a way of fulfilling my wish and at the same time being practical. Happiness is not a mood or a wave, which comes and goes, but we are ocean of happiness itself. Totally new and totally alive, I am happiness, joy and completeness. Life and each of its moments are fresh. I am freshness itself!
The environment around me during the upbringing, assisted me to develop the inner feeling of being special and unlimited by not curtailing the freedom of my inquiry, but rather giving it a sense of recognition and direction. Never was I directly or indirectly told by my parents, that I was the limited, even though in the society it may have be evident otherwise. Parents always counseled to listen to my deep feeling, intuition and conviction in every thing that I did or wanted to do in life. This does not mean that in the search for perfection I didn’t make mistakes. Like any other teenager, I also for a while thought that happiness has to be sort outside in the world of senses and mind. To be happy one had to be rich, famous, highly qualified and have casual relationship with opposite sex. To experience different things at your will was the key to happy living
In my search for happiness outside I often encountered frustration of not getting what I deserved or thought to deserve. What ever I wanted, I worked or asked and got, but the moment I got, I said to myself, not this, not this, there may be some thing else that I am looking for! Does life mean only experiencing the waves of sense pleasure?
No matter how frustrated you are, if you are honest to the search. You will get required guidance and help from your own higher self. Your higher self will come to your rescue in different forms and names. To me it came as family, friends, co-workers, various Masters and as Guru Sri.
On awakening I also say that in every material and physical thing I consciously and unconsciously sort only my own higher self. When I realization it, I couldn’t stop busting with laughter and exclaiming. What a fool I was, what a fool I was!
Birthdays are special occasions for the individuals and we need to celebrate them with certain outwards celebration. With out forgetting the central theme, that birthdays are essentially opportunities to cultivate values and virtues which can help the children realize his or her optimal potential.
Family and friends need to spend more time with children, trying to understand their wishes, ambitions and attitudes. Relating and counseling on their conscious and subconscious levels of existence. Some times it’s the subconscious level in the form what dreams children see often , are more effective in guiding the child. As an adult, its not important that we always provide the right answers to their seemingly unending queries. But what is important that we channelize their birthday wishes, desires and energies in the direction of introspection, honest search and listening to the inner voice. For the process of questioning and getting satisfying answers is the ideal approach for Self discover of the child and the individual within.
Next time you see a child’s face and become instantly happy. Know for certain that we all are born with same sparkle and innocence on this planet only to realize our complete potential as the gloriously unlimited being, who is eternally happy and joyful.
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Tuesday, 28 April 2009
What dreams unveils are the subconscious state of the ego and the self
One night I was part of a rare and mean dream. I dream about resentment between me and Ninna ( wife and life partner ). I was not happy with the way she was relating our relationship with others. I was extra ordinarily impatient with her behavior, and she was also responding by being totally unconcerned of my sensitivities. There seemed no end to this verbal play of words and anguish on both sides. The drama was essentially played between us and other participants, were either adding fuel to the fire or being mere spectators, suggesting that they were silently enjoying the show. I was in the thick of things and loosing my nerve, till the moment I was woken up from the dream by my Master.
The dream was reflective of the differences between my and her character or qualities. Ninna is frankly honest and communicative with people, where as I prefer to maintain silence and provide information which might be asked or is just enough. Ninna’s communicative attitude had upset me on various earlier occasions in private and public settings. We had discussed it many times, and come to a conclusion that it was always better to speak optimal, not more and not very less.
We tend to waste a lot of energy in talking. While talking with other people there is flow of emotions, ideas, habits, thinking patterns , attitude and energy levels. You must have observed it by yourself, that after talking to negative sounding people, one also tends to think in similar line. And if you happen to talk with a positive sounding individual or group, then the energy levels in your body and mind tend to rise. Unless one is not sure about the person he or she is talking to, its always advisable to have an intelligent talk, which is short and to the point. Not to forget, that even intelligent talking is some times unhelpful, as it’s a bit pre-defined and may not get that extra piece of information which can make our life much more happier and connected. Nevertheless it’s important to be aware of the merits and demerits of these two approaches in dealing with people.
Good and bad tendencies or energies are present in the entire cosmos, they are part of an adult as well as the humanity in total. Every person in him or her has good and bad aspect. The only factor that makes difference between a positive person and a negative person is the attention or company of these latent tendencies. If a person lives in a positive environment, he or she develops latent positive tendencies into being, and if a person lives with negative sounding people, then he or she can only develop that aspect of his or her personality. In this respect we have to be careful, not to judge people or list them as positive or negative, but to understand that it’s the individual attention and specific environments that make them so and that the basic fabric and essence of human beings is one and common.
Until we reach to a point of enlightenment where no matter what our circumstances are and no matter what kind of people we live with, our inner being or self is never ruffled, we need to be careful and use the gift of discrimination.
In the past Ninna and I had discussed this issue many times. And after our lengthy discussions, Ninna always confessed that she felt less happier and her energy levels fell on the days she met different people and interacted freely. However, the point was how does she put her own assessment of things into informed choice and as changed behavior.
Change in behavior and thinking patterns have to be addressed at various levels.
Habits and thinking patterns which relate to outer personality and habits and qualities which relate to the inner personality.
Behavior change is comparatively easier for habits which are part of our outer personality, i.e. or habits or ways which we cultivate not very early in life for example, waking early in the morning, being a vegetarian or non-vegetarian, certain manners and ways of conducting .
Behavior change for habits or qualities which are part of inner personality are due to deep impressions and patterns which we are born with and acquire in the formative period of our life’s. A combination of inner transformation and will power is required for change in habits and qualities relating to our inner personality. We also require a great level of understanding, patience and acceptance for the inner transformation to happen both at individuals and observer level.
After a while of our relationship, I had come to terms with Ninna’s approach to relate with people. The argument I gave to convince myself, was that all thorough we all come from a common source of intelligence or consciousness on the physical plane, not two people are or can be the same. As my intrinsic quality is to be quite, so is her quality to be communicative. With out the silence, I i won’t be I i and with out talking Ninna won’t be Ninna.
Do I want a change in her because I don’t have capacity to absorb the deviation from what I think is good behavior or being? Would I like Ninna to put a mask on herself? Do I i like her because of what she is or what I want her to be? If I feel good to be what I am, then I should also feel good about the way Ninna is?
The law of opposites worked well with us when we first met. I was the introvert being with a few close friends while she was the extrovert person with great social network. But why does the same law of opposites which brought us together, work differently after getting married or living together for some years? Addressing this question is essential not only for us but also for numerous couples who find them selves in the same situation.
We have to understand that any thing of the mind and senses has a life period and a certain pattern of existence. It originates, sustains and self-destroys in due course of time. These qualities are intrinsic to the mind and senses as water is to the ocean. The images the mind and senses create of your partner, are the images which have an automatic life period, after which the imagine is self-destroyed to create a new image.
Over time past images of happiness vanish and new imagines of the same arise. This gives us the discontentment with the present. But are we the imagines that our mind creates or are we some thing that watched these imagines, identifies with them and tries to be them? When we fully identify with an image of the mind, the ego is born.
It might be that Ninna’s image of me and mine of her has been destroyed already. But am I the image Ninna’s mind created and is Ninna the image my mind created of her when we first met? We are two beings who have arisen from one blissful source, and that is why all the time we seek; the same bliss even on the physical plane. But on physical plane to be in bliss requires that we connect with the inner heart or call of the self, and identify less with the fancies and jugglery of the mind.
We listen to the mind constantly, as we cant differentiate clearly, what is of the mind and what is the voice or the urge of the Self or inner heart. Lack of clarity on this front, means that we keep chasing one image after another. With the hope that we will find lasting happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction. All though mind seeks happiness, it relies heavily on senses, memory, emotions and intellect for acquiring it. The mind is incapable to hear the language of the inner heart. In which is decoded the love and completeness of our being.
I thought I had well applied all my external faculties and knowledge to resolve this issue ( conflict between me and Ninna) on all levels of existence. However, what dreams revealed, that at the subconscious state, the conflict still remained.
What was it that was stopping me from ending this conflict completely? I am convinced of the intrinsic diversity of creation and beings, why then still can I not wholly absorb this non-conformity with my will?
There is some thing is me ( us) which almost automatically reacts to situations and people when confronted with patterns which are different to the ways we think , believe or perceive. This reaction is at the core of our being and at the core of our manifestation.
Can we live in this world and yet be like air which does not reflect any thing. On the contrary it only conducts or carries out the will of great drama of creation with uttermost surrender, happiness and tranquility.
“The answer lies in the search within, about our real self, and our true identity,” my Master blissfully said.” If we can be in complete harmony with our self, we can be in complete harmony with every being and thing of this world!” he further added. Complete harmony is the state of absolute dissolution of the ego into the ocean of unmanifested bliss.
The dream was reflective of the differences between my and her character or qualities. Ninna is frankly honest and communicative with people, where as I prefer to maintain silence and provide information which might be asked or is just enough. Ninna’s communicative attitude had upset me on various earlier occasions in private and public settings. We had discussed it many times, and come to a conclusion that it was always better to speak optimal, not more and not very less.
We tend to waste a lot of energy in talking. While talking with other people there is flow of emotions, ideas, habits, thinking patterns , attitude and energy levels. You must have observed it by yourself, that after talking to negative sounding people, one also tends to think in similar line. And if you happen to talk with a positive sounding individual or group, then the energy levels in your body and mind tend to rise. Unless one is not sure about the person he or she is talking to, its always advisable to have an intelligent talk, which is short and to the point. Not to forget, that even intelligent talking is some times unhelpful, as it’s a bit pre-defined and may not get that extra piece of information which can make our life much more happier and connected. Nevertheless it’s important to be aware of the merits and demerits of these two approaches in dealing with people.
Good and bad tendencies or energies are present in the entire cosmos, they are part of an adult as well as the humanity in total. Every person in him or her has good and bad aspect. The only factor that makes difference between a positive person and a negative person is the attention or company of these latent tendencies. If a person lives in a positive environment, he or she develops latent positive tendencies into being, and if a person lives with negative sounding people, then he or she can only develop that aspect of his or her personality. In this respect we have to be careful, not to judge people or list them as positive or negative, but to understand that it’s the individual attention and specific environments that make them so and that the basic fabric and essence of human beings is one and common.
Until we reach to a point of enlightenment where no matter what our circumstances are and no matter what kind of people we live with, our inner being or self is never ruffled, we need to be careful and use the gift of discrimination.
In the past Ninna and I had discussed this issue many times. And after our lengthy discussions, Ninna always confessed that she felt less happier and her energy levels fell on the days she met different people and interacted freely. However, the point was how does she put her own assessment of things into informed choice and as changed behavior.
Change in behavior and thinking patterns have to be addressed at various levels.
Habits and thinking patterns which relate to outer personality and habits and qualities which relate to the inner personality.
Behavior change is comparatively easier for habits which are part of our outer personality, i.e. or habits or ways which we cultivate not very early in life for example, waking early in the morning, being a vegetarian or non-vegetarian, certain manners and ways of conducting .
Behavior change for habits or qualities which are part of inner personality are due to deep impressions and patterns which we are born with and acquire in the formative period of our life’s. A combination of inner transformation and will power is required for change in habits and qualities relating to our inner personality. We also require a great level of understanding, patience and acceptance for the inner transformation to happen both at individuals and observer level.
After a while of our relationship, I had come to terms with Ninna’s approach to relate with people. The argument I gave to convince myself, was that all thorough we all come from a common source of intelligence or consciousness on the physical plane, not two people are or can be the same. As my intrinsic quality is to be quite, so is her quality to be communicative. With out the silence, I i won’t be I i and with out talking Ninna won’t be Ninna.
Do I want a change in her because I don’t have capacity to absorb the deviation from what I think is good behavior or being? Would I like Ninna to put a mask on herself? Do I i like her because of what she is or what I want her to be? If I feel good to be what I am, then I should also feel good about the way Ninna is?
The law of opposites worked well with us when we first met. I was the introvert being with a few close friends while she was the extrovert person with great social network. But why does the same law of opposites which brought us together, work differently after getting married or living together for some years? Addressing this question is essential not only for us but also for numerous couples who find them selves in the same situation.
We have to understand that any thing of the mind and senses has a life period and a certain pattern of existence. It originates, sustains and self-destroys in due course of time. These qualities are intrinsic to the mind and senses as water is to the ocean. The images the mind and senses create of your partner, are the images which have an automatic life period, after which the imagine is self-destroyed to create a new image.
Over time past images of happiness vanish and new imagines of the same arise. This gives us the discontentment with the present. But are we the imagines that our mind creates or are we some thing that watched these imagines, identifies with them and tries to be them? When we fully identify with an image of the mind, the ego is born.
It might be that Ninna’s image of me and mine of her has been destroyed already. But am I the image Ninna’s mind created and is Ninna the image my mind created of her when we first met? We are two beings who have arisen from one blissful source, and that is why all the time we seek; the same bliss even on the physical plane. But on physical plane to be in bliss requires that we connect with the inner heart or call of the self, and identify less with the fancies and jugglery of the mind.
We listen to the mind constantly, as we cant differentiate clearly, what is of the mind and what is the voice or the urge of the Self or inner heart. Lack of clarity on this front, means that we keep chasing one image after another. With the hope that we will find lasting happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction. All though mind seeks happiness, it relies heavily on senses, memory, emotions and intellect for acquiring it. The mind is incapable to hear the language of the inner heart. In which is decoded the love and completeness of our being.
I thought I had well applied all my external faculties and knowledge to resolve this issue ( conflict between me and Ninna) on all levels of existence. However, what dreams revealed, that at the subconscious state, the conflict still remained.
What was it that was stopping me from ending this conflict completely? I am convinced of the intrinsic diversity of creation and beings, why then still can I not wholly absorb this non-conformity with my will?
There is some thing is me ( us) which almost automatically reacts to situations and people when confronted with patterns which are different to the ways we think , believe or perceive. This reaction is at the core of our being and at the core of our manifestation.
Can we live in this world and yet be like air which does not reflect any thing. On the contrary it only conducts or carries out the will of great drama of creation with uttermost surrender, happiness and tranquility.
“The answer lies in the search within, about our real self, and our true identity,” my Master blissfully said.” If we can be in complete harmony with our self, we can be in complete harmony with every being and thing of this world!” he further added. Complete harmony is the state of absolute dissolution of the ego into the ocean of unmanifested bliss.
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